Hate, Fear, Anger: How to feel separated from Oneness

Hate, Fear, Anger: How to feel separated from Oneness

Okay, I don’t like using low-vibration terms such as these, but all of us have experienced these emotions from time to time. They’re part of our human experience. The trouble comes when we feel empowered by them. Or when we wrap them around us like a warm blanket.

These emotions offer us a warning that something is out of balance, or not in harmony, with our soul. They offer us an opportunity for growth, evolution, compassion and more. How long we sit in the darkness or misery of these emotions depends entirely on you. The sooner you become consciously aware that you’re in one or more of these emotions, the sooner you can climb out.

I say consciously aware because most of us can certainly recognize on the surface that we are feeling hatred, anger, or fear. It’s when we take it a step further and ask ourselves: What does it feel like in my body? What thoughts are going through my mind? Do I want to continue to feel this way? Am I giving away my power?

When adversity strikes, it is an opportunity for growth. Often the universe will continue to bring similar situations to us until we have overcome them. So what will you do when things come up that elicit these emotions?

Let’s take a moment to talk about Oneness. If you believe that we are all created by the same energy – God/Universe/the Divine, etc. – then we are all connected. There are some 7+ billion people connected to this source; which doesn’t account for animals and all other living beings. If we are connected to this divine light, then doesn’t the divine feel our pain as well as our joy?

If so, then as the energy travels to the Source, it’s also possible that each of us on a very minute level can feel the same pain or joy from someone living in the same city or across the world. We are all connected. The sooner we move beyond hatred, fear, and anger, the sooner we can get to a place of acceptance, love, etc. The more people who feel acceptance, love, joy, etc., the sooner we feel it collectively.

When we hate someone, we create a form of separateness. It’s hard to accept someone when you hate them. With 7+ billion people in the world, there will certainly be people who don’t resonate with our energy. In this case, oftentimes anyway, we can simply choose not to spend time with them. We consciously state that we recognize the person is part of the divine and, therefore, we are connected. However, they simply may not be resonating on the same frequency as us. So we recognize our connection even when we choose not to be around them.

We can acknowledge that each of us is here to learn, grow, and evolve and that we are all on our own journey. By doing so, you are honoring their journey while not taking things personally. I see it as Namaste: the divine light in me recognizes the diving light in you.

Hatred is a very strong emotion. It does more damage to the person carrying the hatred than it does to the person being hated. When we experience such a strong emotion, it’s a good time to look inward. Is there something this person does that you do too? People often come to us as a mirror. If you see qualities in a person you ‘hate’, it could be a part of you that you hate. Or, do you hate someone because they appear to have more than you? It’s up to you to look inside to find the reason.

I’m asking you to go deeper than the surface. If you feel hatred because they have more, why is that? Do you feel less of a person than them? Do you feel like you deserve it more and hate them because they have this ‘great life’ and you don’t? Be honest.

When we get honest with ourselves, the healing and growth can begin. Reasons may be so deep that you may even want to consult a mental health professional to help you navigate this part of your journey.

Again, hatred is a heaviness you carry, not the person you hate. In fact, they generally continue on their happy lives while we continue to carry the darkness of the emotion. When you release the hatred, you are more connected with love. Love is a much greater energy to be connected to.

Fear is another emotion that can stop us in our tracks. Fear is part of our baser instincts. It has helped our species survive after all. However, many of us experience fear even when our lives aren’t being threatened. There are many acronyms for fear. One that I learned a long time ago is Fantasized Experience Appearing Real.

Fear can keep us from our community. It can keep us from living a full life. It can keep us from finding a healthy partner or a better job. Mostly, though, it can keep us from being wholly who we were meant to be.

When you go to the root to find where your fear began, it can offer great insight. You may discover that a parent was fearful and you learned it from them. It could’ve been something you read about. It could be that you’ve been hurt before in a relationship, for example, and you fear being hurt again. In fact, some fear may even stem from past lifetimes.

Fear can make us recoil and disconnect. This keeps us from feeling connected either to the divine, other people, or both. When you begin to understand where the fear is coming from, you can begin the process of healing. Through healing, we can let go of some or all of the fear and move towards the joy of life. This can make us feel more connected to the divine.